Mary cris- if it's bothering you to
wonder what your man is thinking and
feeling when he says one thing but does
another...

Or you're wondering why he acts moody
or withdrawn...

Or why says he loves you but acts like
he couldn't care one way or the other...

Or why he tells you he cares about you but
doesn't want a "serious relationship"...

Then it's time to stop all the guessing
and wondering.

If you keep letting this confuse you
and frustrate you- not only will this
drive you crazy -

But something else is going to happen.

The man in your life is going to sense
all your thinking and "analyzing", and
he's either going to pull away from you,
or want to shut you out.

This is what most men will do in this
situation with you.

And I get it- it's enough to drive you
crazy.

It doesn't have to be this way for you.

For the answers you need on how men
think about relationships, what they
really want... and what the confusing
things they say really mean-

You need to check out my "Inside The
Mind Of A Man" program.

I've finally revealed the hidden secrets
behind why men do what they do, and
why they often send "mixed signals"
to women they claim to love.

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So Mary cris - how's it going?

Do you ever feel frustrated that men don't
know what they want when it comes to love and
relationships?

Even when you and a man are already
physical, affectionate, and having an amazing
time together?

What's going on here?

Are men really this clueless and frustrating?

In case you haven't figured this one out for
yourself, here's an important piece of info
about how men can be when it comes to "dating"
and relationships:

A man can be DOING all the things that say
he's interested and wants more with you... but
be FEELING like HE'S NOT READY or wanting more
in terms of a RELATIONSHIP at the same time.

Crazy, right?

It's enough to drive a woman mad.

And what's worse... a man can DO all kinds
of things with you from hang out to take things
to a sexual level... but he won't COMMUNICATE
about what he's really FEELING.

At least not until after the fact. (After
he decides things aren't "working" and he's
not ready for a serious relationship.)

Ever had a man get close to you and spend
lots of time with you... but then he couldn't
get a word out about how he was feeling and what
he wanted?

If you know what I'm talking about here, then
you know that not-so-great feeling you get when
you're sharing an amazing connection with the
man in your life but...

Out of nowhere he does a complete 180 and
tells you he doesn't like your situation or
something really important about YOU.

And he's already made up his mind to LEAVE.

Arrghhhhhh!

Frustrating, right?

You didn't even get the chance to know or
talk about what was going on inside his head.

How in the world did he think things were
supposed to end up working?

Were you supposed to read his mind!?

I get that it must feel IMPOSSIBLE
sometimes to get close to a man and have a real
relationship.

Well, it's not.

Tons of other women like you have gone from
where you are now to having an easy time
communicating with the men in their lives and
growing from that UNCERTAIN area of the first
few dates to a loving and secure relationship.

I've helped plenty of women create that "shift"
in their dating life or their relationship that
now PREVENTS these frustrating things from
happening.

And now I want to share some real-world
insights with you about how men think... and how
to make things with that right man work for you.


WHY MEN DON'T CALL AGAIN AFTER GREAT DATES

I probably don't have to tell you that men
do this "suddenly pulling away" thing in all
different situations from "casual" dating to
committed relationships.

And they do it without warning, and for what
seems like no good reason at all.

How many times have you gone on a first or
second date with a man and had an absolutely
fantastic time...

And you were sure he was going to call and
felt as strongly about you as you did him...

You had both laughed and found so many
things you had in common...

You felt relaxed and confident, and you BOTH
had a good time flirting and getting to know one
another.

Best of all, that magic chemistry you can
only share with the right kind of guy was there.
And it was INTENSE.

When you went home after being with him, you
were 100% SURE he would call and ask you out
again.

He had even said "I'll call you" as he left.

But then a few days went by... and nothing.

Several days later, after you had wondered
about him more than you'd like to admit... you
came to the realization that he was NEVER going
to CALL.

What's the deal here!?

Why did he act like it was such a great
date... and even say that he'd call you later,
when he obviously didn't plan on it?

Did he lie simply because it was easier in
the moment and he didn't want to hurt your
feelings?

And was there something strange going on inside
HIM he didn't want to share, show you, or be
honest about?

Or was there something else?

Something you missed that he saw in YOU?

Was there something YOU DID or said that was
the REAL REASON he didn't feel compelled to see
you again?

If you're like a LOT of single women, this
sort of thing where a man never calls or makes
plans with you again has not only happened to
you once, but it's happened to you a few times.

You've spent time with a man who seemed like
he could have been great "relationship material",
and who showed all the signs of wanting to grow
close to you and get to know you better...

But when push came to shove, he PULLED AWAY
for what seemed like no good reason at all.

And he was never available to you to talk
about it or tell you why.

Which means... for all the times this has
happened to you, a part of you has NEVER learned
anything about WHY these things keep happening
to you.

Part of you simply feels like you're "cursed"
when it comes to love... and that things just
aren't fated to work out for you with true love.

But, if you're like lots of women I've talked
to and helped, then part of you has also made
up your own "stories" for WHY these things
happened to try and make yourself feel better.

Stories like:

-"He wasn't that great anyway."

-"It wasn't really meant to be."

-"You'll find someone better."

-"It was his loss."

Recognize any of these?

The reality is that we often make up these
"stories" in our lives when we let our FEAR of
what the REAL TRUTH about us might be keep us
from looking for and finding out who and what
we really are... and how others see us.

So let me ask you:

What if a man whom you really and truly liked
and connected with was willing to tell you THE
TRUTH about why he really never called you again?

Would you be able to listen to him with an
open mind and an open heart?

Would you be able to believe him?

And would you be willing to do anything about
it if what he said was honest and real?

See, lots of women know they aren't getting
the "whole story" from a man... but on a deeper
level they aren't OPEN to hearing his reason WHY
because of the PAIN that could come from it.

And it's this FEAR of being hurt or feeling
unloved or unappreciated that pushes them to both
create a less painful "story"... and try and get
over it and forget about the situation as quickly
as possible.

It's ironic, isn't it - that the very thing that
can keep you from learning, growing, and creating
what you want is often your own unwillingness to
hear the REAL STORY about yourself from another
person's perspective (a man's in this case)?

Considering this, here's the real question
for you:

What if there was a real reason why a man
didn't call to ask you out again?

Like that he REALLY WAS interested in you...
but something else got in the way of him being
able to see you and feel comfortable with you.

If this was the case, and knowing what this
mistake was could help you avoid ever making the
same mistake again... wouldn't you want to know
what it was?

What if it was something you were doing on
an unconscious level that you couldn't even see
about yourself that was causing you to lose the
chance to start an incredible connection with
a great guy?

What if it was you who blew it because of
some small misunderstanding or "glitch" going
on inside you that is so EASY TO FIX that
you'll wonder why it was ever a problem for you
in the first place?

There's something I need you to understand
right now...

If there is something you might be doing to
get in your own way, odds are that you are 100%
UNAWARE of what that thing is, and what's causing
it.

After all, the reason you don't know what's
getting in your way in the first place is because
the mistake you're making is something that
happens completely UNCONSCIOUSLY.

Don't believe me yet?

I'll explain how it works like this...

I'm sure you've seen it where a girlfriend
of yours went on a date with a guy she really
liked - and she was completely intent on things
really working out with him - even though they
had only been getting to know each other for a
very short while.

But the more you saw how your girlfriend was
thinking about and approaching the whole
situation, the more that part of you knew that the
man she was dating would instantly lose interest
when he picked up on how she was thinking and
feeling (UNCERTAIN and INSECURE).

And guess what happened?

Exactly...

The man did pick up on it, and he stopped
calling and making plans with her all of a
sudden.

It was over. And she was devastated.

You tried to talk to her about it.

But you knew that there was something that
your girlfriend just couldn't see about herself
that had made this guy get that weird awkward
"Eeeewwww" feeling when he was around her that
had pushed him away.

Even you would have been turned off by this
kind of thing in someone you had started dating.

And even though you tried to hint at what you
saw and explain it to your girlfriend... she just
wasn't having anything to do with the fact that
how SHE was thinking and acting was the reason
he lost interest.

Instead, she was FIXATED on HIM.

Here's the thing:

We all have our own "blind spots" - things
that we do in our lives that WORK AGAINST US
that we can't see for ourselves, but that are
obvious to others when they look at our lives
from the outside.

I'm going to suggest to you that if you're
having some of the same problems and frustrations
over and over with men as you're dating or in
relationships...then what's important is NOT the
belief you might have about how men are so messed
up and don't "get it."

What's important is you getting to the bottom
of YOUR PART in these situations that are keeping
you from creating what you want - YOUR BLIND
SPOTS.

That way, you never have to wonder again.

AND... best of all, you can start making
LOVE come together and work for you in your
life.

Wouldn't it be great to be able to have a
connection with a man effortlessly grow into
a deeper relationship?

And have that deeper relationship quickly
grow into something SECURE and LASTING not
because it had to be... but because a man was
just that wild about you and had to be with you
and stay with you?


THE SUREFIRE WAY TO TURN A GUY OFF AFTER THE
FIRST FEW DATES

Let me ask you:

What are those things that even your best
friends see in you and try to tell you, but you
just don't listen to or believe about yourself?

What are the things that are true about
how you end up acting when you get close to a
man and you lose your composure?

I want to tell you that you aren't alone
when it comes to feeling this way and having
"blind spots."

You could be having a hard time just getting
to experience dates #2 and 3 with a guy, because
you rarely get asked out after a first date.

Men just didn't seem to want to follow
up and explore things with you...

Which leads me to an interesting question I
hear sometimes from the women who write to me -
what do dates #2 and #3 MEAN to a man?

If he asks you out on a second or third date,
does that mean he's interested in having a
real relationship?

Maybe. Here's the deal:

When a man asks you out for a second or
third date, what it means is that he's interested
in getting to know you better, because he felt
a good connection with you on date #1.

It doesn't mean that he necessarily wants to
be "exclusive" or is thinking "serious
relationship."

He's STILL just getting to know you.

One of the BIGGEST MISTAKES women make early on
in a dating situation is they assume that there is
a "relationship" when in fact the thought hasn't
even crossed the man's mind.

He's enjoying your company, getting to know
you, starts wondering about you, and meanwhile,
you're already thinking ahead to the next few
months when this is the ONLY man you're seeing
and things are "serious."

You've already made a decision about this guy,
and you don't even know him that well yet. All
you're doing is going by your "gut feeling" and
the chemistry you feel when you're with him.

So you start acting on that "feeling" and you
begin to make certain assumptions about what's
going on between you.

This can send a really bad "vibe" to a guy,
especially when you ASSUME you're going to be
seeing each other every weekend, when you express
your annoyance with him when he doesn't call you
more often, and when you assume a monogamous
relationship instead of actually DISCUSSING it.

I call this the "Instant Relationship" syndrome
and it can be the difference between never getting
past date #2 or 3 with a guy, or connecting way
past dating and into a committed, amazing
relationship.

You can read more about the Instant
Relationship mistake right here:

http://www.catchhimkeephim.com/MeetingTheOne


Now...

Here's another question about dating and
relationships I get asked a lot... and I'm sure
you can relate.

Women will come up to me and say, "Christian,
all this dating advice is great, but I don't
understand why I can't just BE MYSELF and still
attract Mr. Right."

The answer is, you CAN be yourself, and really
you SHOULD be.

But how do you know that the way you "are"
around a man is the "best" and most attractive
you?

I believe that ALL women have the natural
power and ability to be confident, playful and
wildly attractive to a man.

The problem is that because of the baggage
of past bad relationships, hurtful feelings or
not understanding how men think makes women
SUPPRESS that natural ability to ATTRACT and
engage a man in a way where he can't help but
want to spend time with her - and want to commit
to her.

What if you could UNLOCK your natural ability
to attract the right man by learning what it is
that makes HIM desire to be with you and ONLY you?

What if you knew the secrets to how men think
and behave, so you could finally relax and BE
YOURSELF and draw a man to you without all that
"convincing" about how he should be with you?

When a man starts telling you "I care about
you, but I'm not ready for a relationship right
now" it's special man-speak for "I'm not that
attracted to you, deep down."

Now, wouldn't KNOWING that spare you a lot
of wasted time and energy, trying to figure out
what "care about you" really means, and whether
or not there's something you could do or say to
get him to want to date you?

Unfortunately, a lot of women don't have that
basic understanding about men, and so they spend
endless hours analyzing what a guy does or says
and whether or not he's really being honest with
his feelings.

Believe me, if a man feels that DEEP EMOTIONAL
CONNECTION with you, he won't even worry about
what else is going on in his life.

He'll want to be around you and want to have
something meaningful and long-lasting with you.

These kinds of misunderstandings about men can
be the ROOT CAUSE of why you're no getting past a
few dates with the men you're really attracted to
and interested in.

What if you could know, without a doubt, what
kinds of things are the real attraction-killers
for men?

What if you knew how to talk to a man so that
he saw you as fun and interesting, instead of
needy or critical or just too "bossy"?

In my "Inside The Mind Of A Man" program, I
take you IN-DEPTH to why men do the things they
do, why they say the things they say to a woman.

Think for a moment about where you would be if
you had an amazing, mature, great guy in your
life.

Would you feel more confident if you knew:

> Exactly what to say and do so that your man
would ALWAYS feel that staying with you was more
than worth it, even when you had challenges,
fights, and disagreements?

> How to keep from feeling unintentionally hurt
by little things he says and does... because
you'll understand him better than he understands
himself?

Think about it.

Wouldn't your love life be 100 times better
if you only understood certain things about men?

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> Why men cheat and how to affair-proof your
relationship

> What men really need in order to feel "in love"

> What men wish women understood about them

> Why men often seem to withdraw after an argument
or conflict

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I'll talk to you again soon and best of luck
in Life and Love,

Your Friend,

Christian Carter





P.S. Curious to know what's going on inside
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> How getting a man to do things on his own that
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will add fuel and energy to your relationship...
and how this becomes easy for you

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Mary cris - Have you ever been friends with a
man and wanted something better...but had not been
able or known how to turn it into something
more?

If so, then there's something you should
know about how to trigger that special emotion
inside a man's mind that gets him
"feeling it" for you.

It's called EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION.

I've put together a special letter that explains
in detail what that certain kind of attraction is,
and what you can do to make a man sit up and take
notice of you like never before.

You can read about all my very best tips and
Secrets for creating that INTENSE and lasting
ATTRACTION with your man right here:

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Ok, Mary cris,

Did you know that most men decide if a woman is
"girlfriend material" within a few seconds of
meeting her?

And here's what is even more fascinating and
strange about how men think and feel...

If you don't know how to create the right
first impression with a man, then you just might
get thrown into the "just a friend" category
before you can even talk to or connect with him.

And guess what that means?

Everything that you do after a man gets that
initial impression about you is run through the
"she's just a friend" filter... and this can make
being in the "friend zone" almost inescapable.

ESPECIALLY if you're looking to get involved
with a man for MORE THAN JUST A FLING.

But, there IS something you can do about this.

If you want to learn the mistakes lots of women
make in first and second impressions that land
them in the "friend zone"...

And what you can do instead that will make him
think "GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL" from the get-go, then
keep reading...


WHY A MAN RECOGNIZES ONE WOMAN AS "RELATIONSHIP
MATERIAL" AND ANOTHER AS JUST A "FLING"

Did you know that men have several specific
terms and phrases that they use with each other to
think of and describe women?

It's a sort of "guy code" or short-hand slang
that men everywhere use with each other and their
friends.

One of my favorites that I've been hearing all
my life from men is the term "Cool Girl."

As in when a man says, "Yeah, I met this girl
the other night and she was a really "cool girl".

As simple as this sounds, the meaning that men
give this term is important and applies to a set
of very specific qualities.

Qualities that, although never actually
discussed among men, are universally understood.

Quick quiz here for you:

1) You've got cool fashion sense.

2) Great taste in music.

3) You hang with the hippest friends at the best
places.

4) And you're often the life of the party.

So, that makes you a "Cool Girl", right?

Not necessarily.

So, what in the world are men talking about?

And why are they so fickle?

Well, for starters, MEN DON'T MAKE SENSE. The
more you try and use logic and reason to figure
out or understand a man's thinking and behavior,
the more you're going to become frustrated and
upset.

It may seem simple or even downright
ridiculous, but men think of women as "cool girls"
when they see that a woman understands something
that other women can't even see going on.

Men see that a cool girl "gets it" on a level
that lots of other women don't.

They demonstrate to men certain social and
emotional understandings and ways of behaving that
resonate deeply, without having to be talked about
or explained.

You'll hear different stats for this, but
something around just 8% of communication is done
through the actual spoken word.

We're talking here about that AND the other
92%, which, for most women, is saying things to a
man that they don't even know they're saying.

To put it another way, "cool girls" exude
positive emotional energy that men can relate to.

And they're "naturally" the kind of women who
every man is inexplicably drawn to, even if they
doesn't look like a supermodel.

Want to know her secret?

In today's email I'm going to reveal EXACTLY
what makes you stand out as a "Relationship
Material" (a "Cool Girl") in a guy's mind.

And we'll talk about how you can harness your
own power to become one.

But first, let's learn what a cool girl ISN'T.
Let me ask you a question:

Has a man ever accused you of being too
"emotional?"

How about "moody?"

Or worse - maybe some guy actually called you
"hysterical" or "needy"?

Whatever he called you, it was the start of him
closing off or getting irritated with you and
things going wrong in the conversation.

What's frustrating for lots of women is that
men often react this way when you simply bring up
something you feel strongly about or you need to
get off your chest.

Sure, maybe you got a little choked up or felt
intense about it, but you were just being honest
with your feelings.

Well, I hate to be the one to break it to you,
but this isn't unusual for a man to do.

In fact, it's standard behavior for most men
to react to a woman with withdrawal or frustration
in these kinds of conversations.

Is it the "right" thing for a man to do?

Obviously not. But you might be forgetting that
MEN DON'T MAKE SENSE.

And don't get me wrong...

I'm not saying that honesty isn't important or
that you're not entitled to feel how you feel.

But, in order to make a relationship work, it's
CRITICAL for you to understand that men simply
aren't "wired" the same way that women are when it
comes to connecting on an emotional level.

Men open up, connect, and become emotionally
"committed" in different ways, and for different
reasons than most women do.

Unfortunately, lots of women never really learn
what these differences are... so they go about
trying to build a connection, attraction, and
a lasting relationship with a man by doing
what would work FOR THEM.

You don't have to be a genius to figure out
that this approach rarely works.

If you want some specific insights about what
most women do when they're starting out in a
relationship, or when they're just trying to
get closer to a man that only pushes him
away...

Then you need to check out my eBook "Catch Him
& Keep Him."

There's a specific section in the book I call
"The Biggest Mistakes Women Make With Their
Emotions" - and it talks about what this mistake
so many women make is, how to avoid having a man
pull away and resist you when you make it, and
what to do instead.

If you'd like to learn why a man will react in
a negative and fearful way to what you say about
your feelings and emotions (even when what you're
saying is only for the good of your relationship
and to show him you care), then go check out my
eBook now.

You can read it and start improving
your live life immediately.

It's time to change the ways a man often
responds to you with frustration or RESISTANCE.

Instead, learn what will get him to finally
and at long last listen, learn, and connect with
you on a deeper emotional level.

The key is UNDERSTANDING the "buttons" that
will cause most men to stop listening and
WITHDRAW... and instead learn how to communicate
directly and easily with the part of his
personality and mind that's open and receptive to
love, affection, and connection with you.

Men want love and to connect with a woman more
than they like to show...

And part of you instinctively knows this.

If you want to learn more about how to create
the kind of intense create attraction
that will lead to him wanting much more than just
a physical connection...

And will lead you both to connect with each
other on a more lasting emotional level...

Then I suggest you check out the specifics I
spell out in my eBook about the common behaviors
that "cool girls" use to communicate with men and
let them know they are "relationship material."

You can download your free copy of my eBook and
start reading it in literally minutes at the link
below.

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/eBook


So, let's keep talking about some of the
important differences when it comes to
communicating with a man, creating ATTRACTION, and
growing towards something deeper.

Remember when I mentioned the idea of the "Cool
Girl" earlier?

Well, "Cool Girls" understand the facts of life
when it comes to how men can be different.

And what's more... they make these differences
work in their favor (and not against them like so
many other unfortunate women).

It's as if they've learned this unspoken "guy
code" that most other women don't even know is
going on right in front of them.

Well, today I'm letting you in on some of these
codes and guidelines... starting with a few of the
big "Don'ts":

"Cool Girl" DON'Ts:

- Cool Girls DON'T exaggerate about what's going
on around them or what a man's doing, unless
they're doing it as a joke or to make fun of a man
in a playful way.

- Cool Girls DON'T say everything that they're
feeling and experiencing. They think before they
speak. (Listen up to this one -- it's HUGE.)

- Cool Girls DON'T mention bad situations, issues
or problems from the past unless it's a total
"must" or extremely important and they haven't
been able to talk about it yet. They find the
right time for them AND their man to talk.
Otherwise, Cool Girls live in the present moment.

- Cool Girls DON'T try to FORCE a man to talk
about his feelings. They know that it will only
backfire and he'll think she's being needy and
close off.

Now, I know what you're probably thinking:

"How can they act like that? It sounds like
'Cool Girls' are totally fake or devoid of all
natural emotion."

Wrong.

"Cool girls" still experience all of the same
thoughts and feelings any normal healthy woman
has...

But, they've CHOSEN to adopt a different kind
of behavior that will ultimately get them the
response that they're looking for with the man.

They acknowledge the irrational ways of men and
let that help shape their actions, which results
in very powerful, very positive reactions from the
men in their lives.

Simply put, they've got guys eating out of
their hand, even in situations where other women
would have caused emotional turmoil and "drama."

And, isn't that something that YOU would love
to have too?

It's not manipulative or diabolical...it's just
plain common sense.

So, what are some of these "cool girl"
behaviors and ways of non-verbally communicating?

I'll get to that in just a minute...

First, let's take a look at a letter from a
reader with the potential to be a "Cool Girl" ...
if only she could keep her emotions from ruling
her decisions:


>>>Email From A Reader:

Hi Christian, I just purchased your book and I
have to say my eyes started to open in just a few
pages. I KNOW I've been making the mistake of
being too emotional. First of all, I should give
you some background. My boyfriend is in the Air
Force and he's stationed in San Antonio. I live in
Los Angeles.

Being in a long distance relationship has been
very hard on me. Especially since I'm not a
patient person.

We run into trouble when I'm feeling sad about not
seeing him and call him up expecting him to make
me feel better. I'm assuming that I shouldn't lean
on him emotionally since he doesn't respond when I
do.

I know he's worth waiting for. I just don't want
to do stupid girl things that will drive him away
:) I love him completely. I want this
relationship to work!!!!

Please send me any advice you can give me.

christine.

>>>My Response:

Ok, repeat after me. "I'm Christine, and I'm an
Emotion-a-holic."

Very good.

Now, say it one more time.

As they say in 12-Step programs, admitting that
you have a problem is the first step towards
recovery.

The thing is, I'm joking around with you and
calling you names around this serious situation
for a specific reason...

Because you're acting like a helpless little
girl so I have to make fun of you to get you to
realize it.

Stop it!

Now, get ready for some tough love...

You're better than how you're behaving, but in
a sick kind of way, it's easier for you to keep on
initiating the only real problem you spelled out
here in your relationship:

How you make your man be the one responsible
for you and your negative feelings.

A boyfriend is there for a lot of things in a
relationship, but to make you feel good each time
you get sad or down is NOT HIS JOB!

I'll repeat that in case you didn't hear me the
first time -

It's NOT HIS JOB to save you from the feelings
you have and make them go away.

That's called DEPENDENCY, and it leads both
people to frustration and resenting each other in
the long run.

Translation - there's little hope for any
LASTING or mutually fulfilling love in a situation
that involves one person dependent on the other
for approval, validation, or to experience love or
joy in life.

And, in case you don't already know this,
creating and fostering this kind of dependency is
one of the surefire ways to kill off any
ATTRACTION you might already have going in a
relationship.

Have you ever been with a man and had AMAZING
chemistry... but then it started to unravel and
fall apart when you became afraid he wasn't
"feeling it for you" anymore?

Which of course only made things worse as you
acted out of fear and uncertainty about him, his
feelings, and where things were headed

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of this kind of thinking or behavior in yourself,
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A man does NOT decide that a woman is "the one"
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The truth is, a man wants to be with a woman,
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Now, let's get back to the topic of being
DEPENDENT (or "needy") when dating or in
relationships...

In case you don't see it, a man helping you to
feel better and satisfy your emotional needs can
actually make you a WEAKER PERSON.

And not only that, it can keep you and your
relationship from ever being able to GROW.

In fact, being emotionally dependent on another
person can actually cause a good relationship to
REGRESS.

Here's something you need to remember, but
sometimes forget when you're inside an intense
emotional situation with a man:

Relationships are supposed to be about growth,
and not about becoming dependent on someone else
meeting your emotional needs at any time you want
it.

And, part of you knows this about living a
strong, "real" relationship - that it can't meet
all your emotional needs.

But, part of you also wants and DEMANDS that a
man acknowledge and satisfy your feelings and
desires.

Part of you has the habit of wanting instant
emotional gratification.

"Love on demand."

Let me give it to you straight.

It's a man's place in a relationship to be a
good partner, to care for you, to listen, to be a
great lover, to connect, to be loyal, and to
share.

I get than men need to "show up" more often in
relationships.

But...

When you DEMAND that a man meet your emotional
needs and "lean" on him out of your own fears,
frustrations, and uncertainty... these problems
are ALL YOUR OWN.

And the truth is most men will eventually
become tired and fed up with a woman who is
constantly DEMANDING emotional approval and
understanding from him... instead of finding a way
to create the experience so that both she AND he
feel like they are having their needs met.

So, let's take some positive steps, because
things still aren't so bad.

First, for your own good, you need to figure
out WHY you're "sad", as you mentioned in your
email.

And I mean why you're sad personally, because I
think a lot of what's happening has nothing to do
with the man in your life at all.

Sure he makes mistakes and doesn't "get it".

But, you can get past that.

You need to address the CAUSE of your feelings,
and not keep trying to find "quick-fixes" for the
symptoms.

Think about it, and see if there's anything
else in your life and in the past that could be
making you feel sad - and then take some positive
steps around those.

Secondly, it's time to start acting like the
smart, fun, mature, healthy woman that he knows
and fell in love with.

She's in there somewhere, and it's up to you to
find her. Don't leave it up to him, because he
might get tired of carrying the relationship's
emotional tone for you.

Here's a few ideas about how to do that:

I want you to stop acting SO SERIOUS all the
time and getting yourself EMOTIONALLY WORKED UP.

It sounds dumb, but please start smiling more.

Your body has a strange and powerful ability to
affect your emotions.

Posture, breathing, activity and actual
relaxation are other great ways to simply give
yourself the gift of more positive emotions.

Ok, now back to your brain...

You're escalating your own fears and
frustrations and it's doing something that could
turn into a real destructive force in your
relationship:

You're creating a negative feedback loop that
just gets worse and worse as it goes.

Let's spell out what your feedback loop is so
you can interrupt it and get to better things...

The more you feel sad, the more you give him
sad and negative emotions.

And, the more negative emotions he gets from
you, the less he's able to stay happy and positive
himself and have the energy and desire to draw you
out of your girlish sadness and dependency on him
for your feelings.

Which of course, only makes you feel more sad
and helpless, so you turn to him more for help and
around we go again.

Don't let the NEGATIVE FEARS and EMOTIONS you
have RUIN THE LOVE LIFE you could have.

Learning to stop negative patterns in your life
and relationships is a "must-have" skill if you
want to have lasting and loving relationships.

The thing is, most people know that
relationships take work.

And long-distance relationships can feel like
even more work and give back even less immediate
"rewards."

Every phone call seems to have life-or-death
importance...

Every call, letter, and email is examined for
subtext and clues.

Every weekend visit has to be PERFECT or you
start to question everything.

It's only natural to feel a little more "needy"
or feel like your emotions are heightened all the
time.

But, the trick is not to let these feelings
overwhelm you.

If you do, they'll cause you to REACT
negatively to normal and natural situations.

When these negative reactions become common,
they keep you from actually doing positive things
that would make him feel MORE ATTRACTED and
CONNECTED to you.

And so the negative feedback loop continues.


A COMMON "EMOTIONAL CHALLENGE" IN RELATIONSHIPS

Most people don't truly think about and
appreciate the emotional "challenge" that comes
with committing to a mature, long-term
relationship like the one you're working on...

I'll bet that your relationship sometimes feels
like just a lot of work and sadness to you.

And as much as it scares you to death, you know
in the back of your mind that your man feels the
same way and sees what's happening.

He's not stupid.

I'll cut to the chase...

NOBODY wants their life or relationship to feel
like it's just a bunch of work.

And, a healthy-minded person will only stay
around so long in a situation that just doesn't
work and isn't going to change.

Especially if they're trying to resolve a
problem or feeling that isn't really their own.

The sad feelings that you depend on your guy to
fix create this situation in the worst way.

Not to mention that your sadness makes him see
you as weak and much less ATTRACTIVE as a woman
and partner.

In fact, as much as it stinks to hear, I've got
to tell you that one reason it might be getting
harder for your man to "pull you out" of your
sadness is that he's FEELING LESS ATTRACTED to
you.

And with a man, LESS ATTRACTION leads to LESS
EMOTIONAL CONNECTION and less emotional
generosity.

Following me here?

I know it stinks, and I might be a jerk in your
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There's something you're not doing that you're
going to HAVE TO DO to stay sane and make it
through this with your man...

You have to make A CONSCIOUS CHOICE about your
feelings and your situation.

If you don't, you'll keep missing or killing
all the opportunities for CONNECTION and FUN that
still need to be going on between you two.

You see, the goal isn't to keep yourself from
having sad or negative feelings.

That would be impossible and "inhuman."

Reality just doesn't work that way, no matter
how great your relationship is.

Instead, the goal is to get to a place where
you can begin to observe how you're feeling and
then make conscious decisions using BOTH your
emotions and your intellect.

When you get involved in a relationship,
especially a long-term relationship, you're
CHOOSING to make some very important TRADE-OFFS.

Every once in a while, you need to remind
yourself of these trade-offs, as it will give you
a renewed understanding of the small sacrifices
you've made for the good things in your life.

But, you keep going back and creating sad
feelings for the situation that you chose.

Almost like these bad things just happened to
you and you couldn't do anything about them.

Again, stop playing the helpless woman.

Of course you're going to feel sad, frustrated,
and upset if you're not recognizing that YOU chose
this situation as a trade-off to continue with the
great guy and relationship you've got.

Realize that you choose your life when it comes
to most of the situations you find yourself in.


THE POWER OF CHOOSING TO CREATE ATTRACTION AND A
POSITIVE CONNECTION WITH A MAN

What you've been doing in the past isn't
working for you or him, (not really) and it CAN'T
feel good.

Do you really like the feeling you get when you
dump your sad feelings on your boyfriend and he
disappoints you sometimes with his response?

Makes you feel kind of low, right?

You said it yourself: when you're feeling down,
you call him, expecting him to make you feel
better.

It's not that he doesn't care...

It's that he doesn't RESPOND to the way you
communicate.

When men hear women getting emotional, they
usually do one of two things:

1. Immediately go into "Action Mode" and try to
"fix" the problem with concrete solutions (and
that's not usually what women want to hear)

2. SHUT DOWN

And I think you know which one happens more
often from experience, right?

Well, either way, both of these responses never
result in the comforting reaction that you might
be looking for.

Can I get a witness?

So, let's go back to this idea of "cool girls."

"Cool girls" know how to communicate with a man
in a way that leads a man to respond in a way that
works.

So, no more of that nonsense talk from your
email saying, "I'm not a patient person."

You don't have to be.

It just takes the emotional maturity to
recognize that the trade-offs - that you yourself
have already CHOSEN - are some of the challenges
here.

Stop playing victim to your own choices and
start finding reasons to be interesting and
ATTRACTIVE to him again.

Your man WILL RESPOND in kind.

"Cool girls" know this.

Here's a few of the "cool girl" Do's:

- Cool girls choose not to complain or talk about
things for too long that are not other people's
responsibility or impossible for anyone to solve,
given the current situation.

- Cool girls bring funny positive thoughts and
feelings to situations to create an experience
that men will want to have again and again.

- Cool girls know that they don't have to control
much with the situation around them for their own
comfort and to get the outcomes or responses they
want. They're willing to go with the flow when it
comes to social things, but make assertions when
they have opinions and ideas.

- Cool girls have options and things to do that
keep them satisfied so they don't feel like
they're left out if they're not invited to
something. (And even if the don't they certainly
don't complain about it or even mention it -- they
FIND something to do that makes them happy.)

- Cool girls prefer that a man makes up his own
mind; they don't try to make a man do something
she says or she can tell he doesn't want to do.

- Cool girls DO know that the way they feel and
talk about themselves is how men will feel about
them.

So, are YOU a "cool girl?"

Are you the kind of woman that men are
"naturally" drawn to and want to be with... for
more than just a fling?

Do you know what the other 92% of your
communication (the non-verbal communication) is
saying to a man?

And do you get how to say all the right things
verbally and non-verbally to let him instantly
know that you're the kind of girl he'd like to
connect with and fall in love with?

My eBook "Catch Him And Keep Him" teaches the
most critical "real world" strategies you need to
know to find and live the relationship you've
always dreamed of.

It's even got lots more psychological,
emotional and behavioral insights about the "cool
girl" that men naturally respond to in dating and
relationships.

The entire first section of my book is THE
definitive guide to understanding how attraction
works for men and their natural (and sometimes
irrational) biological differences that "cool
girls" get.

Each page of this section is full of concepts
and ideas to help you learn exactly what goes on
inside a man's mind, how attraction works for him
and how to turn that initial connection into a
lifelong commitment.

And, if that isn't all you're after, the second
section of the book is all about the "emotional
world" of men and women.

If you've ever wondered why a man reacted
the way he did, why he withdrew, or why he
responded with frustration when all you were
looking for was emotional connection, then you've
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Here's the thing:

Every man can end up seeing a woman as
"relationship material"... but, not every woman
knows how to make this happen with her.

And every man can date a woman and end up in a
relationship for a little while, but not every
woman knows how to keep things growing through the
good and the bad so that love and commitment
LASTS.

By the way, I do get A LOT of questions from
women about making that love and commitment last
-- so many, in fact, that I created a program to
help women better understand how to build secure,
lasting and committed relationships.

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Mary cris- why is it that a man can seem so
passionate and excited about you when you first
meet, but then "cool off" quickly the more you
get to know each other?

Are men just into "the chase" and lose interest
once they sense that they "have" you, or is there
something else going on?

The truth is that a man will remain intrigued and
excited but ONLY IF he feels something more than
everyday "physical" attraction for you. Physical
attraction is something any man can feel at the
drop of a hat; it's really nothing special.

But do you know what the "other" type of
attraction is that a man can feel for a woman?

Why do men so often fall into a state of boredom
with great women? Because they're simply not
feeling that "gut level" of attraction for you,
the kind that goes BEYOND the physical and into
the emotional.

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man and get him wondering and thinking about you,
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Dear Mary cris,

Have you been feeling overwhelmed and burned
out from all the responsibilities and tasks you do
day in and day out, so that you barely have any
time or energy to put into taking care of YOURSELF
or figuring out what it is YOU need in order to
feel fulfilled and happy - whether in your
relationship, your career, or just in LIFE?

It's very easy to let weeks, months and even
YEARS go by while you're busy checking off your
daily to-do lists and then wake up one day and ask
yourself,

"Who am I, what am I doing with my life?" and
then on top of it realize, "What happened to my
LOVE LIFE??"

I hear this from women ALL THE TIME - they get
into a relationship, they focus so much on trying
to make it "work" or being what they think the man
wants them to be...

Or they get so totally busy with life's little
details, that when the relationship finally ends
and they are forced to look at what they really
want out of life, they realize they had LOST THEIR
WAY.

They stopped being their authentic selves
and suppressed their dreams because they had spent
years ignoring what it is their soul was really
yearning to be.

So when the relationship they were in ends,
they begin to feel as if they are "waking up" to
who they really are and what they want for
themselves.

To find how to re-connect to your authentic
self so you never again have to feel like you've
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You'll also learn:

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IT ALL, why it's dangerous for relationship
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> The #1 reason why men will lose passion for you
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Here's an important question.

Does a relationship have to END in order for
you to find yourself again?

Isn't there a way to stay in touch with who
you are and what you really want and need in life,
while staying in a relationship and making that
relationship WORK to bring out your authentic
self?

The answer is YES, THERE IS.

I'm going to show you how in this email.

The question I want to ask you right now is,
are you being as true to yourself right now as you
can be?

Is your relationship with your man the most
passionate, connected and HONEST that it can be?

If you're not feeling as connected to your
true and best self right now, I will give you some
tips on how you can start on the RIGHT PATH to
"getting your groove back" and becoming a
happier, more fulfilled person, no matter what is
happening in your life right now.

No matter if you're in a relationship that
works, or you're single, or if you're having
issues in your relationship that are standing in
the way of your happiness...

These tips will enable you to:

-WAKE UP that youthful and playful woman you used
to be. If you've "lost" your inner playfulness,
you probably spend a lot of time feeling
judgmental, pessimistic and tired in your
head.

- Getting back in touch with that playful part
of your soul will allow you to enjoy life no
matter what it's throwing your way.

-Get what you want out of your relationships -
more honesty, more attention, more fun, more
sharing.

-Stop feeling ENVIOUS of other women who have
better bodies, better boyfriends, better love
lives, more money or less stress.

Are you ready to get back out there with 3
simple tips? Great, here we go.


Tip #1: STOP BEING SO SERIOUS. TRY SILLY

Do you ever feel worried that you're not
being the perfect friend, partner, or mother?

Does worrying about whether or not you're
doing things the RIGHT way make you feel defensive
and uptight about every little thing that doesn't
go the way you think it should go?

These are symptoms of having lost your "inner
child" and your ability to just LET GO and enjoy
and accept yourself and your life for what it IS,
not for what you think it "should" be.

When you take a deep breath and do something
SILLY and spontaneous for a change, it will open
you up in ways you can't even imagine.

Kick off your shoes and go running through the
grass.

Dance with your child and spin them around
until they're dizzy with laughter.

Start a food fight in your kitchen with your
boyfriend.

These are all ways to let go of all the
"should's" in your life and just live in the
moment.

Here's the problem with those "should's" by
the way.

They keep you from being true to who you
really are, deep inside, because you're constantly
worrying about what OTHER people think.

If you get stuck there too long, pretty soon
you'll start to feel like you don't know who you
are or what will make you happy.

So do something silly and spontaneous and
don't worry about how you'll look or what people
will think. Just be your true self.


TIP #2: GIVE WHAT YOU'RE YEARNING FOR

Let's say you haven't gone out with your
girlfriends in a long, long time. And you feel
disconnected.

Or maybe your man hasn't made any special
date plans for what seems like weeks, and you're
in a low-energy rut in your relationship.

Or you're single and feeling pretty lonely and
down and wish you could find a decent man to share
your time with.

Instead of complaining to yourself about how
your friends aren't calling you, or your man isn't
being romantic or caring, or how hard it is to
meet a man, make it a point to actually start
GIVING the exact thing you want.

Call your friends and invite them to do
something you enjoy doing together.

Plan a weekend getaway with your man and
surprise him with it.

Smile and be engaging to everyone you
encounter in your day - the grocery store clerk,
your co-workers, your boss, your neighbors - and
you'll be amazed at how much less isolated and
lonely you'll feel.

And the best part about GIVING what you want
for yourself is that you get so much MORE back
in the long run.

When you put yourself "in service" to others,
by helping them, by really LISTENING instead of
just talking, by offering your advice or talents
to make their lives better and happier, you will
begin to feel more fulfilled and valued - and
happy - and you will begin to reap the rewards
for all that positive energy immediately.


Tip # 3 TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE

When you take care of your own needs and your
own future, you will feel less envious of the
people around you who you think have it easier
and better than you have.

Here's something I've noticed about others -
even about myself sometimes - the things that you
ENVY in others are the things you know you're
neglecting in your OWN life.

Your envy is a sign that you are denying that
aspect of yourself and that you need to pay more
attention to it and fix it in yourself.

For example, if you seethe with
self-righteousness and envy over every single
well-dressed, sexy woman who walks by you and your
man, it's probably likely that you aren't feeling
so hot about yourself.

Maybe you know you haven't put as much effort
into your appearance and well-being as you should,
so instead of admitting that to yourself you feel
a deep sense of negativity and envy for anyone you
perceive as having it "more together" in that
area.

The same can be said for things like wealth
and success. If you envy someone's success, it's
probably because you know you're not doing
everything you can to create that personal success
in your own life.

You know you're not doing everything you
should to make yourself happy. It doesn't have to
be about money.

The key to feeling less envy and less
negativity toward others is to BE HONEST about
your shortcomings and then take responsibility
for your own life to get things back on track.

So what do these 3 tips have in common?

They are all about refocusing your attention
and energy away from the destructive, negative
feelings and thought patterns that make you feel
inauthentic and down about your life, and
turning things around so that you get back in
touch with that deeper, WISER part of yourself
so you can feel happier and less STAGNANT.

One of the BENEFITS of learning how to get
back in touch with your authentic self and
accessing that "inner child" - besides just
feeling better about yourself - is that it makes
you more ATTRACTIVE and draws a man to you.

You see, when it comes to being the kind of
woman that a man really wants, simply "being nice"
and accommodating, or being predictable and doing
and saying the same things the same way every day,
will quickly put you in the "she's not the one"
category in a man's mind.

Here's the scary part - once you fall into
that category, you can get STUCK in there forever.

You don't want a man to think that he can
find someone else who will make him feel the
passion and excitement that he used to feel - but
isn't feeling anymore.

You want to be the kind of woman who INSPIRES
a man's deepest and most powerful feelings of love
and devotion...simply through the things you do
and say to keep him wondering and thinking about
you.

You want to be the kind of woman who sparks
the kind of emotions in a man that he can't help
but to worship and adore you, naturally and
without a lot of effort.

No "fixing," no talking about the
relationship, no convincing him that it should
be working better than it is.

It will just happen.

When you watch my "Relationship Turnaround"
CD/DVD program, it will all become crystal clear
for you. You will know what it takes to inspire
a man to be a better partner to you.

Here's where you should start:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/RelationshipTurnAround


Meanwhile, I hope that you start to use and
apply those 3 Tips in your life, starting today!

I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck
in Life and Love,

Your friend,

Christian Carter






P.S. Got a man in your life but you're afraid
it's falling apart, or that he might be thinking
of leaving?

Love shouldn't feel difficult or draining.

It should feel easy and natural and
fulfilling - for you and the man you're with.

If you haven't felt good with your man in some
time, don't let another day go by without DOING
something about it.

If you do, it might be too late.

But be careful, because WHAT you do and HOW you
go about trying to change things in your
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Dear Mary cris,

I have some important questions for you.
Think carefully as you answer.

* Have you ever had a man you were
interested in - maybe even someone you really
cared about - all of a sudden become "distant"
and withdrawn, and you just couldn't figure out
why?

* Can you remember a time when you began to
develop strong feelings for a man and knew you
wanted to be with him and only him, but he
seemed ambivalent and "wishy-washy" about the
situation - and it drove you NUTS?

* Have you ever dated a man who was AFRAID to
commit to you and even HE didn't really know why?

* Have you ever found yourself in a relationship
with a man who took you for granted, or just
didn't value you as a person?

* Are you apprehensive about giving yourself
emotionally and physically to a man because you
fear that HE won't do the same? Or worse, that
he'll only do it partially and then just leave,
for what seems like no reason at all?

* Have you ever known that you and a guy would be
PERFECT together - but for reasons you cannot
explain, he just couldn't see it?

* Do you ever feel like all men are "the same",
to the point where it makes you just want to give
up?

* Do you fear that you won't be physically
satisfying or attractive to a man after months or
years in a relationship, and that he won't be as
attracted and in love with you after many years
together?

* Do you ever fear that YOUR man might end up with
someone else?

* Do you secretly fear that you may NEVER
experience the passionate life-long love you
dream about, and that you might end up
lonely...and alone?

If you answered "YES" to any of these
questions, then I have some important news for
you.

The news is that you are NOT alone.

In fact, that list of questions was created
from talking to literally hundreds of women about
the problems they were facing in their love lives.

It's a fact: relationships with men so often
start off "hot and heavy", but then quickly and
UNEXPECTEDLY turn ice-cold.

Nearly all women have had the experience of
feeling like they've finally found something
"real" with a man, and sharing themselves both
emotionally AND physically, only to have him
suddenly PULL AWAY.

And what's worse, when this happens, there
often seems to be no explanation... and NO GOOD
REASON AT ALL.

These types of situations make it easy to
feel pessimistic towards men in general, and can
definitely lead you to believe ALL MEN are just
"screwed up."

But is that the REAL truth?

Are men REALLY too messed up to experience
a mature, healthy, loving relationship? Is there
any hope?

Yes... there is.

So you know, there are 6 Keys you need to know
about if you want your man to grow MORE ATTRACTED
and in love with you over time, instead of less.

To read the rest of this tip-filled article,
go here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA


In this article I'll share what it takes to
stop all the guesswork with men and start
effortlessly creating that INTENSE ATTRACTION that
your guy needs to feel with you if your
relationship is going to last and grow.

Don't let yourself get stuck in another
relationship where you watch the affection and
excitement of the man you love fade away.

If you've ever struggled with how to keep
that attraction and passion burning bright without
having to try and worry if things are going to
work out, then I don't want you to go on without
knowing how to prevent relationship "burn-out"...
whether it's been a few months, or a few years.

My very best tips and secrets for creating a
deep and lasting attraction inside your man are
here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA

Do the men you meet online kind of "disappear"
after one or a few great dates, and you don't know
why?

Do you wish you knew the secret of what to DO or
what to SAY to not only spark a man's interest,
but keep him thinking and wondering about you...
and therefore wanting to spend more time with you?

For a complete how-to guide on how to navigate the
early stages of dating in order to create intense
attraction and keep him wanting MORE of you, check
out my "Meeting The One" program here:

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Let me ask you something, Mary cris.

Do you feel defeated by online dating because
the men you date either grow "cold", stop
calling, or give you excuses about why they can't
"have a relationship" with you after only a few
dates?

Sometimes even confusing you because you thought
you were being relaxed and casual about things?

The early stages of online dating are filled with
such possibility.

You meet a guy you think is pretty attractive and
you have a ton in common.

But it isn't long before he starts to act "flakey"
for no apparent reason you can think of.

He tells you he's busy all the time, or he doesn't
call when he told you he would.

Which makes you feel completely rejected, or
deceived in some way.

It makes you start wondering if it's just better
to be alone than even TRY to date. It may be a
little more lonely at times, you think, but at
least it's more MANAGEABLE.

Sure, you could just give up and hope that
someday the right guy will just show up and it's
all going to work out effortlessly. But here's
the reality:

One of the BIGGEST mistakes women make in online
dating or ANY kind of dating is resigning to
their "fate" after several of these same bad
situations.

You may even start to believe that there are no
good men out there.and certainly not online. You
think that online dating is a "waste of time" or
"not for you" or that men are just a bunch of
jerks who don't appreciate a good thing (you)
when they see it.

It's a mistake because it actually leads to you
unconsciously choosing the wrong men over and
over...thus perpetuating this cycle, or worse -

Closing off to love and therefore staying single
for a long, LONG time.

In my "Meeting the One" program, I teach you
exactly how to recognize and then AVOID the common
mindsets, approaches and mistakes that are keeping
you from attracting the right men to you - or that
push the right guys away.

One of these common mistakes is what I call the
"Instant Relationship."

This is when you subconsciously have already
decided that you're in an actual RELATIONSHIP
with a man, but he has made no such decision in
HIS MIND yet.

Which has the unfortunate effect of completely
creeping a man out or simply turning him OFF from
wanting to be around you.

If you're thinking to yourself, "no, I don't do
that" then let me ask you this.

After a great date or two, do you get upset when a
man doesn't call you soon to set up another date?
And do you let him know that you're upset by the
tone of your voice or otherwise?

Do you get upset or even assume that he should
ask you out on the weekend. Let's assume you've
been on a few dates or maybe have already been
intimate.

Do you believe that sleeping with a man means that
you're a "couple" and that he shouldn't be seeing
anyone else? But you haven't talked about this
with him directly, so you can't really be sure how
HE feels about it?

If any of these sound familiar, then chances are
the "vibe" you're sending out to a guy is the KISS
OF DEATH to what could be a great relationship.

It makes a guy feel that you've already
emotionally committed to him, when he in fact is
still trying to decide if he likes you enough to
want anything serious.

Which can make him feel pressured and turned off.

To find out more about the "Instant
Relationship" and how you can avoid this common
ATTRACTION-KILLER, then check out the free tips
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-- How to qualify the good guy and avoid the true
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-- How to learn the HIDDEN TRUTH about a man on
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Have you ever had a guy flirt with you, tell you
that you're "amazing" and "special" but when you
started responding to him or having feelings for
him, he suddenly pulled away for NO GOOD REASON?

Why do men do this?

Why do they start out hot and then get distant
and shut down without telling you why or even
wanting to TALK ABOUT IT WITH YOU?

Read the truth behind why men get distant and
suddenly "change their minds" about you in my
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(Hint - this program will show you how to create
intense attraction in a man that keeps him from
withdrawing or questioning your relationship)

It's all here:

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Dear Mary cris,

Is there a man you're interested in and attracted
to that ACTS like he may be interested in you,
but he hasn't asked you out on a date yet?

You see him at work, or he's a friend-of-a-friend
that you run into at parties, or is a member of
the same club or organization you're involved
with.

Every time you run into him, he seems happy to see
you.

He flirts, he smiles, he teases you and tries to
get your attention.

He seems to remember every conversation you had
and makes you feel like he's actually PAYING
ATTENTION to what you're saying.

He asks you about your life and makes you feel
like he's really interested in what you're doing.

He compliments you on the way you look. He looks
directly at you, and there's just something about
the way he's looking that makes you wonder what
he's really trying to say.

It feels good to you.

It feels like he's attracted to you.

And you find yourself attracted to him.

You look forward to running into him or spending
time with him.

He makes you laugh, and every interaction you have
with him makes you wonder what it would be like to
date him.

But you also feel a bit OFF BALANCE around him,
because he doesn't seem to do what you expect him
to do, or what you WANT him to do.

Like suggest you go out for a drink or coffee.

Or ask you for your number or email.

Or want to take things beyond just a casual
friendship with a lot of flirting to something a
little more "real."

Sure, he ACTS interested, he flirts with you and
tells you that you're beautiful and smart and
interesting, but then he pulls back and makes you
wonder if you're just IMAGINING THINGS.

Is he really interested? Or is he just messing
with you?

It confuses you, which makes you think about him
even MORE...and it's driving you crazy.

Will he ever ask you out? Should you make the
first move and ask him? Is he shy? Is he waiting
for some kind of "signal" from you?

If you've ever been in this kind of situation, you
know how confusing it is.

One minute, the guy is laying on the compliments
and flirting with you like crazy.

And the next minute, he's off talking to someone
else and "ignoring" you, without ever following
up or ASKING YOU OUT.

It can even be extra irritating when this happens
over and over... when he continues to act
interested without ever DOING anything about
it...driving you a little more nutty each time.

What does it mean when a guy acts like this, and
what can you do when you're attracted to a man who
just won't make the FIRST MOVE?

I can tell you that there can be many reasons a
man will flirt and act "interested" in you, but
never ask for your number, call, or make plans to
go on a real "date" with you.

One may be that he's actually involved with
someone else, and he doesn't want to be honest
about that, but he enjoys your company and thinks
you're a great woman. He just doesn't want to "go
there" with you.

Maybe he's attracted to you PHYSICALLY, but
doesn't yet feel that gut-level of emotional
attraction to want to take things to the next
level with you.

Maybe he's getting mixed signals from you...one
minute he thinks you're responding and interested,
but the next minute he senses some kind of "vibe"
that makes him wonder if you'd reject him if he
were to ask you out.

OR...Maybe he has his own personal reasons for not
wanting to become more involved that have nothing
to do with who you are or what you say or do.

These are all things you may have wondered about
and guessed by yourself at one point.

Unfortunately, unless you ask him directly,
there's no way to know for sure what's going on.

But there ARE a few things you can do to increase
the likelihood that he'll want to spend time with
you alone and get to know you better.

In this email, I'm going to give you 3 powerful
tips on getting a man's attention and interest,
and then a game plan on how to create the right
situation so that he can feel comfortable asking
you out or taking things to the next level with
you.

This way, you can stop over-analyzing everything
he's doing or saying, and stop feeling bewildered
about why he keeps flirting with you but not
making a move.

And then you can RELAX, create the right
circumstances, and let it all work out like magic.

Ready? Here goes.

TIP #1: LEAD WITH ATTRACTION

If a man is looking you up and down and staring at
you, or already telling you things like, "You're
the most attractive woman in the room" or "You're
really hot" then it's a no-brainer.

He's physically attracted to you.

You've already got that going for you.

That's NOT the kind of "attraction" I'm talking
about here.

That's PHYSICAL ATTRACTION, and a man can feel
that kind of attraction for any woman - whether
she's his "type" or not. A man can appreciate an
attractive woman. He might even want to ACT on
that kind of attraction alone.

By flirting with you, or kissing you, or even
getting "physical" with you.

But a man won't stick around for the long-term if
ALL he's feeling is that "you're hot."

Because there won't be any of the magic EMOTIONAL
or INTELLECTUAL attraction that will keep him
wondering about you or actually LONGING for you
(in more than just a physical way).

If you know how to trigger that deeper, more
alluring kind of emotional attraction in a man,
he'll want to spend time with you and be around
you and it will have LITTLE to do with the way
you look or the way you're dressed.

Sure, you looking and feeling beautiful will be a
big bonus in his mind, but in order for him to
want something more than just a fling, or to feel
addicted - he has to be into to you for another,
deeper reason.

He'll be addicted to you because you're playful
and unpredictable.

Because of the way you carry yourself and the
way HE FEELS AROUND YOU.

If you know how to LEAD with attraction, how to
set up that "feeling" inside a man from the first
5 minutes you meet him, then it's going to be very
easy for him to ask you out, because he's going to
wonder about you and want to be around you.

He won't be able to resist you.

To learn the steps behind taking a man from that
initial "physical" attraction to feeling utterly
ADDICTED to being around you, get a copy of my
"Natural And Lasting Attraction" CD/DVD Program.

This program is the most comprehensive program
I've developed on the topic of creating powerful
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In this program you'll learn specific tips and
insights into the kind of words, body language
and attitudes that trigger a man to think, "hey,
there's something about this girl I really like
and am curious about. I like being around her.
How can I spend more time with her?"

Check it out for yourself right now at the link
below:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA


Leading with attraction is different than leading
with physical appearance, or leading with your
"book-smarts" or letting a man "know" how
independent or successful you are.

A man won't fall for you because of your physical
fitness or the kind of job you do.

He'll fall for you because of the way you make him
FEEL when he's around you, and because you trigger
that gut-level of intense emotional attraction in
him.

If you know what this is and how it works, you'll
realize how EFFORTLESS it can be to get a great
man to ask you out.

To learn all about this kind of attraction and
how to trigger it, read this:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA


TIP #2: ENGAGE HIM ONE-ON-ONE AND GIVE HIM THE
SPACE TO RESPOND

Do you know that a man can be just as afraid or
even MORE AFRAID of rejection than you are?

In order for a man to overcome "shyness" or even
his fear of rejection, he has to feel pretty
confident in himself, or in the idea that if he
were to ask you out, you'd respond with a "yes."

If you're always surrounded by a group of people,
he may not have had the opportunity to see for
himself whether or not you're really available and
interested.

If he's never had a one-on-one conversation with
you, where you're leading with attraction and
flirting back, he may not feel too sure of the
situation.

You may THINK you're flirting back or being
friendly, but he may be just as unsure about YOU
and what you're feeling or thinking as you are
about HIM.

This is why it's important that if you want to
maximize the chances that a man will follow-up
with his attraction for you, you have to find a
way to ENGAGE HIM that tells him that you're both
interested and available.

Look him directly in the eye when you're speaking
to him. Smile.

And don't forget to lead with attraction.

Which means avoiding things like:

1. Complaining.

2. Talking about "boring" subjects like the
weather or what you do for a living.

3. Letting him "carry" the conversation.

The fact is, if you don't know WHAT TO DO AND SAY
in order to create enough interest for a man to
both FEEL SAFE asking you out and creating enough
INTEREST in him, then you're going to have a tough
time with men and dating.

In my program "Meeting The One" I walk you through
exactly what to do and say from the moment you
lock eyes with a man, to what to say and do so he
asks you on a first date and beyond.

These first few moments and dates are critical for
setting the stage for a successful relationship
down the road.

If you feel yourself getting tense or not knowing
how to ENGAGE a man or let him know you're
interested and available, then I can show you
exactly what you need to do in my Meeting The One
program.

If you'd like to know what to do and say so that
he not only notices you but takes things beyond
just FLIRTING, then you need to watch or listen
to my Meeting The One program.

I developed my Meeting The One program for women
who would like my very best tips and insights into
how to attract, qualify and meet the RIGHT man,
and do what it takes to keep him interested and
wanting more.

In it, you'll learn exactly WHAT to do with a
guy you are dating to move the relationship in the
direction you choose... know WHEN he is ready to
move forward... and HOW to talk and act around
him to draw him closer to you.

You'll also learn to avoid the biggest mistake I
see women make all the time in the first few days
and weeks of dating a man - the Instant
Relationship. Learn more about that right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne


So what if you do both of the above tips and that
guy STILL isn't asking you on a date?

Is it ok to ask a man out yourself?

The answer is YES, it is perfectly fine to ask a
man out on a date if you feel attracted to him
and suspect he's interested, too.

A lot of women have no problem doing this, and
it can actually work out and lead to something
positive.

But maybe you're not comfortable with that for
some reason.

Maybe you want a man to make the move, or maybe
you're just not 100% sure that he's interested
and available, and you don't want to risk
feeling embarrassed if he turns you down.

I get it. I totally get it.

The thing is, you CAN do something to let a man
know that you'd be up for getting to know him
better without actually having to ask, "Would
you like to go out sometime?"

Here's how:

TIP #3: "BACKLEAD" HIM

There's a way to show a man where you want things
to go without actually doing it yourself or
telling him straight-out what you want.

In other words, there's a way to tell a man that
you want him to ask you out without actually
saying the words, appearing desperate, or being
too "aggressive."

You do it by initiating HIM to lead.

In social situations, there's always a "leader"
and a "follower" - and the energy FLOWS from the
submissive to the dominant person, not the other
way around.

A friend of mine who's a ballroom dancer taught
me this.

In dancing, she SHOWS a man the way she wants him
to go without actually pulling or pushing him
there.

She does it through a technique she calls
"backleading."

You show a man where you want to go, then you
relax and CREATE THE SPACE for him to take you
there, but you don't fill the space for him.

This way, a man can feel like he's the one who
pursued you, and you can feel more relaxed
knowing that the date was "his" idea.

Because the LAST thing you want to be doing or
feeling is that you're somehow "chasing" the guy.

So anyhow.

Here's an example of how you might do this.

You might say something like, "You seem like a
great guy. I'd love to get to know you better.
Here's my number. If you were to ask me out for
tea sometime, I'd say yes."

Here's the caveat for this technique:

It's NOT backleading when you're calling him all
the time, texting him to meet you somewhere,
complaining that he doesn't call you enough, or
pushing him to "make good" on a suggestion that
you two do something together.

That's not backleading.

That's CONVINCING, and it's a total turnoff for
a man if he's not yet sure where the
relationship is headed.

In my Meeting The One program, I explain the
subtle process of Backleading and how and why it
works, and the exact do's and don'ts of it.

I also walk you through, step-by-step, what to
do and say when you first meet a man, to the first
phone call, a first meeting, and beyond.

You'll also learn the #1 MISTAKE women make that
completely "creeps" a guy out when they start
dating...and how just understanding why it happens
completely TRANSFORMS your relationship and makes
him want to pursue YOU.

You'll also learn, once and for all, the reasons
a man won't CALL BACK, and what you should do
when this happens to you.

You'll also learn how to keep from losing your
composure around a man (I'll show you what to do
if it does happen... but more importantly how to
avoid it and "keep your cool" in those tough
situations).

It's all right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne


And if you feel like you have no problem with
meeting lots of great men, but you don't
understand why time and time again, the man
suddenly withdraws or gets distant for no
reason...

Or tells you suddenly that he doesn't quite feel
the same "chemistry" with you and wants to date
other people...

Or tells you that he's "not ready" for anything
long-term or serious with you - EVEN AFTER TELLING
YOU HE LOVES YOU...

Then you need to get yourself a copy of my
Natural And Lasting Attraction program right away.

You'll learn how to UNDERSTAND why men say and do
these confusing things and what exactly you can do
to STOP a man from withdrawing and keep him hooked
for the long-term.

Get some free tips and learn more about my
Natural And Lasting Attraction program here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA


I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in
Life and Love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter




P.S. You're not alone if you are frustrated that
relationships with men often start out intense
and passionate but quickly and unexpectedly turn
cold and distant.

Nearly all women have had the experience of
feeling like they've finally found something
"real" with a man - and sharing themselves both
emotionally AND physically - only to have him
suddenly PULL AWAY.

And what's worse... when this happens, there often
seems to be no explanation... and NO GOOD REASON
AT ALL.

These types of situations make it easy to feel
pessimistic towards men in general... and can
definitely lead you to believe ALL MEN are just
"screwed up".

But is that the REAL truth?

Find out right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA