that you're "amazing" and "special" but when you
started responding to him or having feelings for
him, he suddenly pulled away for NO GOOD REASON?
Why do men do this?
Why do they start out hot and then get distant
and shut down without telling you why or even
wanting to TALK ABOUT IT WITH YOU?
Read the truth behind why men get distant and
suddenly "change their minds" about you in my
Natural & Lasting Attraction program right here:
(Hint - this program will show you how to create
intense attraction in a man that keeps him from
withdrawing or questioning your relationship)
It's all here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA
Dear Mary cris,
Is there a man you're interested in and attracted
to that ACTS like he may be interested in you,
but he hasn't asked you out on a date yet?
You see him at work, or he's a friend-of-a-friend
that you run into at parties, or is a member of
the same club or organization you're involved
with.
Every time you run into him, he seems happy to see
you.
He flirts, he smiles, he teases you and tries to
get your attention.
He seems to remember every conversation you had
and makes you feel like he's actually PAYING
ATTENTION to what you're saying.
He asks you about your life and makes you feel
like he's really interested in what you're doing.
He compliments you on the way you look. He looks
directly at you, and there's just something about
the way he's looking that makes you wonder what
he's really trying to say.
It feels good to you.
It feels like he's attracted to you.
And you find yourself attracted to him.
You look forward to running into him or spending
time with him.
He makes you laugh, and every interaction you have
with him makes you wonder what it would be like to
date him.
But you also feel a bit OFF BALANCE around him,
because he doesn't seem to do what you expect him
to do, or what you WANT him to do.
Like suggest you go out for a drink or coffee.
Or ask you for your number or email.
Or want to take things beyond just a casual
friendship with a lot of flirting to something a
little more "real."
Sure, he ACTS interested, he flirts with you and
tells you that you're beautiful and smart and
interesting, but then he pulls back and makes you
wonder if you're just IMAGINING THINGS.
Is he really interested? Or is he just messing
with you?
It confuses you, which makes you think about him
even MORE...and it's driving you crazy.
Will he ever ask you out? Should you make the
first move and ask him? Is he shy? Is he waiting
for some kind of "signal" from you?
If you've ever been in this kind of situation, you
know how confusing it is.
One minute, the guy is laying on the compliments
and flirting with you like crazy.
And the next minute, he's off talking to someone
else and "ignoring" you, without ever following
up or ASKING YOU OUT.
It can even be extra irritating when this happens
over and over... when he continues to act
interested without ever DOING anything about
it...driving you a little more nutty each time.
What does it mean when a guy acts like this, and
what can you do when you're attracted to a man who
just won't make the FIRST MOVE?
I can tell you that there can be many reasons a
man will flirt and act "interested" in you, but
never ask for your number, call, or make plans to
go on a real "date" with you.
One may be that he's actually involved with
someone else, and he doesn't want to be honest
about that, but he enjoys your company and thinks
you're a great woman. He just doesn't want to "go
there" with you.
Maybe he's attracted to you PHYSICALLY, but
doesn't yet feel that gut-level of emotional
attraction to want to take things to the next
level with you.
Maybe he's getting mixed signals from you...one
minute he thinks you're responding and interested,
but the next minute he senses some kind of "vibe"
that makes him wonder if you'd reject him if he
were to ask you out.
OR...Maybe he has his own personal reasons for not
wanting to become more involved that have nothing
to do with who you are or what you say or do.
These are all things you may have wondered about
and guessed by yourself at one point.
Unfortunately, unless you ask him directly,
there's no way to know for sure what's going on.
But there ARE a few things you can do to increase
the likelihood that he'll want to spend time with
you alone and get to know you better.
In this email, I'm going to give you 3 powerful
tips on getting a man's attention and interest,
and then a game plan on how to create the right
situation so that he can feel comfortable asking
you out or taking things to the next level with
you.
This way, you can stop over-analyzing everything
he's doing or saying, and stop feeling bewildered
about why he keeps flirting with you but not
making a move.
And then you can RELAX, create the right
circumstances, and let it all work out like magic.
Ready? Here goes.
TIP #1: LEAD WITH ATTRACTION
If a man is looking you up and down and staring at
you, or already telling you things like, "You're
the most attractive woman in the room" or "You're
really hot" then it's a no-brainer.
He's physically attracted to you.
You've already got that going for you.
That's NOT the kind of "attraction" I'm talking
about here.
That's PHYSICAL ATTRACTION, and a man can feel
that kind of attraction for any woman - whether
she's his "type" or not. A man can appreciate an
attractive woman. He might even want to ACT on
that kind of attraction alone.
By flirting with you, or kissing you, or even
getting "physical" with you.
But a man won't stick around for the long-term if
ALL he's feeling is that "you're hot."
Because there won't be any of the magic EMOTIONAL
or INTELLECTUAL attraction that will keep him
wondering about you or actually LONGING for you
(in more than just a physical way).
If you know how to trigger that deeper, more
alluring kind of emotional attraction in a man,
he'll want to spend time with you and be around
you and it will have LITTLE to do with the way
you look or the way you're dressed.
Sure, you looking and feeling beautiful will be a
big bonus in his mind, but in order for him to
want something more than just a fling, or to feel
addicted - he has to be into to you for another,
deeper reason.
He'll be addicted to you because you're playful
and unpredictable.
Because of the way you carry yourself and the
way HE FEELS AROUND YOU.
If you know how to LEAD with attraction, how to
set up that "feeling" inside a man from the first
5 minutes you meet him, then it's going to be very
easy for him to ask you out, because he's going to
wonder about you and want to be around you.
He won't be able to resist you.
To learn the steps behind taking a man from that
initial "physical" attraction to feeling utterly
ADDICTED to being around you, get a copy of my
"Natural And Lasting Attraction" CD/DVD Program.
This program is the most comprehensive program
I've developed on the topic of creating powerful
attraction and keeping a man hooked for good.
In this program you'll learn specific tips and
insights into the kind of words, body language
and attitudes that trigger a man to think, "hey,
there's something about this girl I really like
and am curious about. I like being around her.
How can I spend more time with her?"
Check it out for yourself right now at the link
below:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA
Leading with attraction is different than leading
with physical appearance, or leading with your
"book-smarts" or letting a man "know" how
independent or successful you are.
A man won't fall for you because of your physical
fitness or the kind of job you do.
He'll fall for you because of the way you make him
FEEL when he's around you, and because you trigger
that gut-level of intense emotional attraction in
him.
If you know what this is and how it works, you'll
realize how EFFORTLESS it can be to get a great
man to ask you out.
To learn all about this kind of attraction and
how to trigger it, read this:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA
TIP #2: ENGAGE HIM ONE-ON-ONE AND GIVE HIM THE
SPACE TO RESPOND
Do you know that a man can be just as afraid or
even MORE AFRAID of rejection than you are?
In order for a man to overcome "shyness" or even
his fear of rejection, he has to feel pretty
confident in himself, or in the idea that if he
were to ask you out, you'd respond with a "yes."
If you're always surrounded by a group of people,
he may not have had the opportunity to see for
himself whether or not you're really available and
interested.
If he's never had a one-on-one conversation with
you, where you're leading with attraction and
flirting back, he may not feel too sure of the
situation.
You may THINK you're flirting back or being
friendly, but he may be just as unsure about YOU
and what you're feeling or thinking as you are
about HIM.
This is why it's important that if you want to
maximize the chances that a man will follow-up
with his attraction for you, you have to find a
way to ENGAGE HIM that tells him that you're both
interested and available.
Look him directly in the eye when you're speaking
to him. Smile.
And don't forget to lead with attraction.
Which means avoiding things like:
1. Complaining.
2. Talking about "boring" subjects like the
weather or what you do for a living.
3. Letting him "carry" the conversation.
The fact is, if you don't know WHAT TO DO AND SAY
in order to create enough interest for a man to
both FEEL SAFE asking you out and creating enough
INTEREST in him, then you're going to have a tough
time with men and dating.
In my program "Meeting The One" I walk you through
exactly what to do and say from the moment you
lock eyes with a man, to what to say and do so he
asks you on a first date and beyond.
These first few moments and dates are critical for
setting the stage for a successful relationship
down the road.
If you feel yourself getting tense or not knowing
how to ENGAGE a man or let him know you're
interested and available, then I can show you
exactly what you need to do in my Meeting The One
program.
If you'd like to know what to do and say so that
he not only notices you but takes things beyond
just FLIRTING, then you need to watch or listen
to my Meeting The One program.
I developed my Meeting The One program for women
who would like my very best tips and insights into
how to attract, qualify and meet the RIGHT man,
and do what it takes to keep him interested and
wanting more.
In it, you'll learn exactly WHAT to do with a
guy you are dating to move the relationship in the
direction you choose... know WHEN he is ready to
move forward... and HOW to talk and act around
him to draw him closer to you.
You'll also learn to avoid the biggest mistake I
see women make all the time in the first few days
and weeks of dating a man - the Instant
Relationship. Learn more about that right here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne
So what if you do both of the above tips and that
guy STILL isn't asking you on a date?
Is it ok to ask a man out yourself?
The answer is YES, it is perfectly fine to ask a
man out on a date if you feel attracted to him
and suspect he's interested, too.
A lot of women have no problem doing this, and
it can actually work out and lead to something
positive.
But maybe you're not comfortable with that for
some reason.
Maybe you want a man to make the move, or maybe
you're just not 100% sure that he's interested
and available, and you don't want to risk
feeling embarrassed if he turns you down.
I get it. I totally get it.
The thing is, you CAN do something to let a man
know that you'd be up for getting to know him
better without actually having to ask, "Would
you like to go out sometime?"
Here's how:
TIP #3: "BACKLEAD" HIM
There's a way to show a man where you want things
to go without actually doing it yourself or
telling him straight-out what you want.
In other words, there's a way to tell a man that
you want him to ask you out without actually
saying the words, appearing desperate, or being
too "aggressive."
You do it by initiating HIM to lead.
In social situations, there's always a "leader"
and a "follower" - and the energy FLOWS from the
submissive to the dominant person, not the other
way around.
A friend of mine who's a ballroom dancer taught
me this.
In dancing, she SHOWS a man the way she wants him
to go without actually pulling or pushing him
there.
She does it through a technique she calls
"backleading."
You show a man where you want to go, then you
relax and CREATE THE SPACE for him to take you
there, but you don't fill the space for him.
This way, a man can feel like he's the one who
pursued you, and you can feel more relaxed
knowing that the date was "his" idea.
Because the LAST thing you want to be doing or
feeling is that you're somehow "chasing" the guy.
So anyhow.
Here's an example of how you might do this.
You might say something like, "You seem like a
great guy. I'd love to get to know you better.
Here's my number. If you were to ask me out for
tea sometime, I'd say yes."
Here's the caveat for this technique:
It's NOT backleading when you're calling him all
the time, texting him to meet you somewhere,
complaining that he doesn't call you enough, or
pushing him to "make good" on a suggestion that
you two do something together.
That's not backleading.
That's CONVINCING, and it's a total turnoff for
a man if he's not yet sure where the
relationship is headed.
In my Meeting The One program, I explain the
subtle process of Backleading and how and why it
works, and the exact do's and don'ts of it.
I also walk you through, step-by-step, what to
do and say when you first meet a man, to the first
phone call, a first meeting, and beyond.
You'll also learn the #1 MISTAKE women make that
completely "creeps" a guy out when they start
dating...and how just understanding why it happens
completely TRANSFORMS your relationship and makes
him want to pursue YOU.
You'll also learn, once and for all, the reasons
a man won't CALL BACK, and what you should do
when this happens to you.
You'll also learn how to keep from losing your
composure around a man (I'll show you what to do
if it does happen... but more importantly how to
avoid it and "keep your cool" in those tough
situations).
It's all right here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne
And if you feel like you have no problem with
meeting lots of great men, but you don't
understand why time and time again, the man
suddenly withdraws or gets distant for no
reason...
Or tells you suddenly that he doesn't quite feel
the same "chemistry" with you and wants to date
other people...
Or tells you that he's "not ready" for anything
long-term or serious with you - EVEN AFTER TELLING
YOU HE LOVES YOU...
Then you need to get yourself a copy of my
Natural And Lasting Attraction program right away.
You'll learn how to UNDERSTAND why men say and do
these confusing things and what exactly you can do
to STOP a man from withdrawing and keep him hooked
for the long-term.
Get some free tips and learn more about my
Natural And Lasting Attraction program here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA
I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in
Life and Love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
P.S. You're not alone if you are frustrated that
relationships with men often start out intense
and passionate but quickly and unexpectedly turn
cold and distant.
Nearly all women have had the experience of
feeling like they've finally found something
"real" with a man - and sharing themselves both
emotionally AND physically - only to have him
suddenly PULL AWAY.
And what's worse... when this happens, there often
seems to be no explanation... and NO GOOD REASON
AT ALL.
These types of situations make it easy to feel
pessimistic towards men in general... and can
definitely lead you to believe ALL MEN are just
"screwed up".
But is that the REAL truth?
Find out right here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA